As we delve into the theme of mental health this November, it’s crucial to be mindful of the saying, “You can’t pour from an empty cup.” This is especially pertinent for adoptive parents, as we must prioritize our well-being—physically, mentally, and spiritually—to effectively support our children and successfully navigate the complexities of the adoption journey. Taking the time to address our own needs allows us to be present, empathetic, and resilient in guiding our children through the unique challenges and triumphs of adoption.
As adoptive parents, nurturing our mental well-being can involve engaging in spiritual meditation to cultivate awareness and reduce stress, seeking professional therapy or counseling to address any emotional challenges, pursuing hobbies and activities that provide mental relaxation and joy, and building a strong support network through connections with other parents or support groups.
Taking care of your mind, body, and spirit is essential for overall well-being. By integrating these practices into your daily routine, you can enhance your mental health and lead a more balanced life.
Here are some practical ways you can nurture each aspect:
Mind:
“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” Romans 12:2
- Practice mindfulness. By incorporating mindfulness into your life, you can enhance your emotional health, improve your focus, and cultivate a greater sense of peace and well-being.
- Read regularly. Stimulate your mind with books, articles, research, and podcasts that interest you or challenge your thinking. This is particularly important as we learn from others in the adoption space who have more wisdom and knowledge about adoption.
- Learn something new. Take up a new hobby or skill to keep your brain active and engaged. Maybe you can learn how to use watercolors or take up photography. I have always aspired to learn how to sew; perhaps I will tackle this in the upcoming year. You never know; you may find a new hobby that you and your child can learn together.
- Limit screen time—this is huge!!!! Spend less time on devices to prevent overstimulation, mental fatigue, and comparison.
Comparison is the thief of joy.
Theodore Roosevelt
Body:
“Know you not that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, which is in you, which you have of God, and that you are not your own? Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.”
1 Corinthians 6:19,20
- Exercise regularly. Studies show that at least 30 minutes of physical activity 4 to 5 times a week improves fitness and mood. I strongly encourage incorporating strength training as well. This is the main thing I do 4–5x a week to take care of myself and my health. It’s also a wonderful opportunity for me to spend time with my husband.
- Eat a balanced diet. Incorporate a variety of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins for optimal nutrition. I am a firm believer in the 80/20 rule. Moderation is key!
- Stay hydrated. Drink plenty of water throughout the day to maintain energy levels and health. Maybe you dislike water or find it difficult to consume enough throughout the day; you can always add fresh lemons, limes, or flavored packets.
- Get enough sleep. Aim for 7–9 hours of quality sleep each night to support physical and mental recovery.
Spirit:
“For God has not given a spirit of fear but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” 1 Timothy 1:7
- Practice gratitude. Keep a gratitude journal to reflect on positive experiences and cultivate a positive mindset.
- Engage in spiritual formation. Get involved in your local church. This includes prayer, Bible study, worship, and attending a community service. Focus on developing a Christ-centered life and nurturing spiritual growth through intentional practices. This will strengthen your faith and relationship with God.
- Build relationships. Foster meaningful connections with others to create a supportive and loving community. It may be difficult to leave your comfort zone, but it will be worth it!
- Get outdoors. Spend time in nature; being outside can help rejuvenate your spirit and improve your mood.
As adoptive parents, prioritizing your mind, body, and spirit is essential for creating a loving environment for your child. By focusing on your well-being, you gain the resilience and emotional strength needed to support them through their unique experiences. Remember, your well-being is a vital gift to your child, enabling you to provide the love, stability, and understanding they need to thrive.