National Adoption Awareness Month is in full swing and I feel hopeful and focused. The conversations surrounding this month have been purposeful and progressive. Mental health awareness has become increasingly prevalent in society, yet the specific needs of the adoptee community are often overlooked in mainstream conversations. Adoptees experience a unique journey of self-discovery, identity formation, and emotional development. These experiences are shaped by the dynamics of adoption, which often include themes of loss, separation, belonging, and identity.
Mental health within the adoption community has been one of the topics in circulation. It can be hard to engage a loved one in conversation about their mental health. Most people feel uncomfortable broaching this topic, but that should not be the case and we should be proactive in forging the gap. When discussing mental health with an adoptee, it’s important to approach the conversation with sensitivity, respect, and empathy. Here are some thoughtful questions you can ask an adoptee about mental health. These questions can help create a safe space for adoptees to express their feelings and experiences. Being a good listener and offering non-judgmental support is crucial in these conversations.
Belonging, Well Being and Identity
1. How have you been feeling lately; emotionally and mentally?
2. Do you have any particular thoughts or feelings on your mind recently that you would like to share?
3. How has your adoption experience influenced your view of yourself?
4. Are there aspects of your adoption story that you find difficult to talk about?
5. Do you ever struggle with feelings of identity or belonging?
6. How do you feel about the balance between your birth culture and the culture you were raised in?
Relationships, Coping, and Support
7. How do you feel about your relationships with your adoptive family, birth family, and friends?
8. Do you ever find it challenging to connect with others or maintain relationships?
9. When you’re feeling overwhelmed, what coping mechanisms do you use?
10. Do you have a support system that understands your unique experiences as an adoptee?
11. Have you experienced any feelings of loss, grief, or anger related to your adoption?
12. Are there particular times of the year or situations that trigger strong emotions for you?
Professional Support
13. Have you ever considered talking to a therapist about your adoption experience? If so, how did it help (or not help)?
14. Is there anything you wish your mental health provider knew about your experience as an adoptee?
Goals and Opportunities
15. How do you feel about the future, especially in terms of your personal growth and well-being?
16. Is there something specific you’d like to work on or explore more deeply in your mental health journey?
Mental health in the adoptee community deserves focused attention. By acknowledging the emotional complexities adoptees face, we can create spaces where adoptees feel empowered to explore identity, process emotions, and seek healing. Let’s continue this conversation and work together to provide adoptees with the tools and support they need to thrive emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.